What is Social Aggression

This page lists just some of the social aggression scenarios H* used. Others include emergency service just before holidays, accusations of abduction during holidays, and harassing Dad's clients to ruin his practice, among others. Just as Rachel Simmons described in her book "Odd Girl Out" that the most socially aggressive girls were often considered the most well liked, so too H* is considered charming. Our sweet little girl would never do such things.

When I won a sole custody of D* on the initial order in 2001, H* swore that she would have her revenge, that I would never have a penny in my life and that I would never see my son. South Korean culture, where H* is from, supports such a revenge ethic. She has finally achieved her goal. At the time of the sole custody arrangement it was suggested that D* would probably not be able to live with his mother if he chose to until he was 16. In May H* told me that she is not going to let me even see or talk to D* until he is 16.

The manipulative scenarios that H* is putting together are known to sociologists as social aggression or social violence. Rachel Simmons shows in longitudinal studies that some girls can be very aggressive and mean, but unlike mean boys who strike physically, mean girls manipulate relationships. The socially adept person manipulates a group of people in order to strike at the ego of a victim [Rachel Simmons, "Odd Girl Out"]. Simmons's conclusions are now being integrated into counseling programs in schools. Pierre Bourdieu has described social aggression in a wider context. Because it is social does not mean it is ineffective. Social violence can be used to create self doubt and retard an individual's development or even to kill, as occurred in the Megan Meier Story . Also, the target is not always another woman. In what is being called PAS (parental alienation syndrome) the 'Odd Person Out' is dad, and manipulated relationships even include the children. This has resulted in a number of father suicides.