RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary

Kacie, the counselor what was watching my son who wouldn't identify
himself, Dustin, what is his full name?

On Mon, 2004-08-16 at 10:11, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> I had spoken with Lisa Friday morning prior to receiving your email
> requesting to be present and did not communicate the change of plans with
> her until I had a definite date and time for the meeting. She had already
> spoken with her staff and communicated the need for the apology. I copied
> Lisa on our last email to make sure she put it on her calendar and she
> immediately informed me this morning that the staff had already apologized
> to D* on Friday.
>
> The staff members told D* that they wanted you to come play with him
> at the YMCA and they were sorry for what happened when you last came to
> visit. He seemed very relaxed during the conversation and eager to rejoin
> his friends. There seemed to be no indication that he was upset in any way.
>
> I see no need to address the issue again with D* present, I think it
> will only cause him to focus on the incident rather than move past it. If
> you would still like to meet Thursday evening without him present please let
> me know.
>
> Thank you,
>
> Kacie
>
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> Sent: Saturday, August 14, 2004 3:36 PM
> To: Kacie Nesby
> Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary
>
> What is our agenda for this meeting? D* will be there, so I
> imagine that it will be pretty simple.
>
> On Sat, 2004-08-14 at 10:16, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> > Thursday at 6:30 works best for my supervisor and I. I will let the staff
> > know to be there.
> >
> > Thanks,
> > Kacie
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> > Sent: Friday, August 13, 2004 2:24 PM
> > To: Kacie Nesby
> > Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary
> >
> > On Fri, 2004-08-13 at 12:51, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> > > Tom,
> > > I can arrange for Dustin and Lisa to meet with you and D* next
> week
> > > between the hours of 9:30 am - 1:30 pm or 6:30 -7:30 pm. Both Lisa and
> > > Dustin have site responsibilities after 1:30 and will not be available
> > again
> > > until 6:30. We can meet at the Round Rock YMCA in my supervisors
> office.
> > > You may obtain Dustin's information at the meeting.
> > >
> >
> > Ok, then, I would suggest Thursday or Friday 6:30 next week (19th or
> > 20th).
> >
> > > We hold monthly principal meetings and are requested to schedule them in
> > > advance. Lisa's meeting with the principal will be focused on the
> > > relationship between the YMCA and the school district and will be a
> > private
> > > conversation. If you would like to discuss the incident with the
> > principal
> > > I encourage you to meet with her individually.
> > >
> > > I hope to resolve this quickly so that we can have a successful year.
> > >
> > >
> > > Sincerely,
> > >
> > > Kacie Nesby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> > > Sent: Friday, August 13, 2004 10:34 AM
> > > To: Kacie Nesby
> > > Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > On Fri, 2004-08-13 at 09:51, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> > > > I was under the impression the apology had been made, I will check on
> > this
> > > > first thing this morning since today is the last day of camp. I agree
> > > that
> > > > it needs to be done. My staff need to make sure your son understands
> > that
> > > > it is ok that you come see him at the YMCA. I would prefer that you
> not
> > > be
> > > > present only because I am concerned that it may cause unnecessary
> > tension
> > > > for D*.
> > >
> > > D*' issue with the counselors was that they made it difficult for
> > > him to see me, his father, and he definitely has the impression from
> > > them there is something suspicious about my being there which requires
> > > that they watch us closely. I.e. you have it backwards, my presence
> > > does not cause stress with D* - it is my lack of presence and your
> > > counselor's participation in causing this lack of presence which *is*
> > > the source of his current stress between D* and the counselors.
> > >
> > > D* is stressed with the counselors. He explained this pretty
> > > clearly this weekend. My impression is that your counselor's attempt at
> > > an apology was a vindication of what they did rather than any geniune
> > > apology. Anyway, that is how D* has taken it - and it is his
> > > opinion that matters. I want to be there in order to support my son
> > > and to explain what is going on. The apology could be done on Monday at
> > > Deepwood after school. As it is the YMCA and the counselors who are
> > > apologizing for their behavior in front of my son, you might bend a bit
> > > to my schedule.
> > >
> > > > He may be nervous about speaking to the counselors in front
> > > > of you after the last incident.
> > > >
> > > > Lisa has scheduled a meeting with the principal early next week, she
> > said
> > > it
> > > > was her first available appointment. We will request that she speak
> to
> > > the
> > > > Coordinator if there is a concern with a YMCA parent.
> > > >
> > > > Dustin is the name of the counselor you met.
> > >
> > > Ok, what is Dustin's full name? Surely the YMCA does not have a policy
> > > of denying parents knowledge of who is watching their children? Is his
> > > arogance in not telling me his name or supervisor in front of my son not
> > > part of the apology?
> > >
> > > ----
> > >
> > > On another subject, you explained to me in your office that the reason
> > > that the counselors treated me with such intrepidation was that H*
> > > had not put me down as the other parent on the admission form, and she
> > > had not told you that there was a joint managing conservatorship. This
> > > begs some questions as to why I wasn't asked more questions, but at any
> > > rate, D* does not understand such issues. He only saw counselors
> > > refusing to identify themselves, their supervisors, and counselors
> > > telling his father that we couldn't play chess out of their sight.
> > >
> > > >Lisa has scheduled a meeting with the principal early next week, she
> > > >said it
> > > >was her first available appointment. We will request that she speak to
> > > >the
> > > >Coordinator if there is a concern with a YMCA parent.
> > >
> > > Ok, may I come to that meeting? What time will it be? I'm curious as
> > > to why you didn't just speak the principal directly. After all, it was
> > > Lisa who said that the principal had responsibility for her children
> > > instead of herself and the YMCA.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > ----------
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > > -----Original Message-----
> > > > From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> > > > Sent: Thursday, August 12, 2004 7:38 PM
> > > > To: Kacie Nesby
> > > > Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Furn Bluff Elementary
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Kacie,
> > > >
> > > > I appreciate your promising to have the councilors apologize to my
> son,
> > > > as what transpired was in front of him. However, this weekend
> > > > D* told me that the camp councilors had not apologized, and he
> > > > still has the impression that they want to supervise me. The
> councilor
> > > > that had not provided his name to me (also in front of my son) also
> did
> > > > not explain that he was mistaken.
> > > >
> > > > I sense my son is upset with your councilors over this matter, which
> is
> > > > why I am motivated to ask, when will the apology occur, and can I be
> > > > there to witness it?
> > > >
> > > > Also, you mentioned that you were going to have a councilor explain to
> > > > the principal that you all were not happy about her coming into the
> > > > gym. When did this occur? Which counselor talked to the principal
> and
> > > > what was said? What was her reply?
> > > >
> > > > Also, what _was_ the name of the counselor who had no YMCA ID and who
> > > > refused to identify himself to me? I believe his first name was
> > > > Dustin.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Sincerely Yours,
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Tom Lynch
> > > >
> > > >
> > >
> >
>
Received on Mon Aug 16 12:11:27 2004