RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary

I had spoken with Lisa Friday morning prior to receiving your email
requesting to be present and did not communicate the change of plans with
her until I had a definite date and time for the meeting. She had already
spoken with her staff and communicated the need for the apology. I copied
Lisa on our last email to make sure she put it on her calendar and she
immediately informed me this morning that the staff had already apologized
to D* on Friday.

The staff members told D* that they wanted you to come play with him
at the YMCA and they were sorry for what happened when you last came to
visit. He seemed very relaxed during the conversation and eager to rejoin
his friends. There seemed to be no indication that he was upset in any way.

I see no need to address the issue again with D* present, I think it
will only cause him to focus on the incident rather than move past it. If
you would still like to meet Thursday evening without him present please let
me know.

Thank you,

Kacie

-----Original Message-----
From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
Sent: Saturday, August 14, 2004 3:36 PM
To: Kacie Nesby
Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary

What is our agenda for this meeting? D* will be there, so I
imagine that it will be pretty simple.

On Sat, 2004-08-14 at 10:16, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> Thursday at 6:30 works best for my supervisor and I. I will let the staff
> know to be there.
>
> Thanks,
> Kacie
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> Sent: Friday, August 13, 2004 2:24 PM
> To: Kacie Nesby
> Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary
>
> On Fri, 2004-08-13 at 12:51, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> > Tom,
> > I can arrange for Dustin and Lisa to meet with you and D* next
week
> > between the hours of 9:30 am - 1:30 pm or 6:30 -7:30 pm. Both Lisa and
> > Dustin have site responsibilities after 1:30 and will not be available
> again
> > until 6:30. We can meet at the Round Rock YMCA in my supervisors
office.
> > You may obtain Dustin's information at the meeting.
> >
>
> Ok, then, I would suggest Thursday or Friday 6:30 next week (19th or
> 20th).
>
> > We hold monthly principal meetings and are requested to schedule them in
> > advance. Lisa's meeting with the principal will be focused on the
> > relationship between the YMCA and the school district and will be a
> private
> > conversation. If you would like to discuss the incident with the
> principal
> > I encourage you to meet with her individually.
> >
> > I hope to resolve this quickly so that we can have a successful year.
> >
> >
> > Sincerely,
> >
> > Kacie Nesby
> >
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> > Sent: Friday, August 13, 2004 10:34 AM
> > To: Kacie Nesby
> > Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Fern Bluff Elementary
> >
> >
> >
> > On Fri, 2004-08-13 at 09:51, Kacie Nesby wrote:
> > > I was under the impression the apology had been made, I will check on
> this
> > > first thing this morning since today is the last day of camp. I agree
> > that
> > > it needs to be done. My staff need to make sure your son understands
> that
> > > it is ok that you come see him at the YMCA. I would prefer that you
not
> > be
> > > present only because I am concerned that it may cause unnecessary
> tension
> > > for D*.
> >
> > D*' issue with the counselors was that they made it difficult for
> > him to see me, his father, and he definitely has the impression from
> > them there is something suspicious about my being there which requires
> > that they watch us closely. I.e. you have it backwards, my presence
> > does not cause stress with D* - it is my lack of presence and your
> > counselor's participation in causing this lack of presence which *is*
> > the source of his current stress between D* and the counselors.
> >
> > D* is stressed with the counselors. He explained this pretty
> > clearly this weekend. My impression is that your counselor's attempt at
> > an apology was a vindication of what they did rather than any geniune
> > apology. Anyway, that is how D* has taken it - and it is his
> > opinion that matters. I want to be there in order to support my son
> > and to explain what is going on. The apology could be done on Monday at
> > Deepwood after school. As it is the YMCA and the counselors who are
> > apologizing for their behavior in front of my son, you might bend a bit
> > to my schedule.
> >
> > > He may be nervous about speaking to the counselors in front
> > > of you after the last incident.
> > >
> > > Lisa has scheduled a meeting with the principal early next week, she
> said
> > it
> > > was her first available appointment. We will request that she speak
to
> > the
> > > Coordinator if there is a concern with a YMCA parent.
> > >
> > > Dustin is the name of the counselor you met.
> >
> > Ok, what is Dustin's full name? Surely the YMCA does not have a policy
> > of denying parents knowledge of who is watching their children? Is his
> > arogance in not telling me his name or supervisor in front of my son not
> > part of the apology?
> >
> > ----
> >
> > On another subject, you explained to me in your office that the reason
> > that the counselors treated me with such intrepidation was that H*
> > had not put me down as the other parent on the admission form, and she
> > had not told you that there was a joint managing conservatorship. This
> > begs some questions as to why I wasn't asked more questions, but at any
> > rate, D* does not understand such issues. He only saw counselors
> > refusing to identify themselves, their supervisors, and counselors
> > telling his father that we couldn't play chess out of their sight.
> >
> > >Lisa has scheduled a meeting with the principal early next week, she
> > >said it
> > >was her first available appointment. We will request that she speak to
> > >the
> > >Coordinator if there is a concern with a YMCA parent.
> >
> > Ok, may I come to that meeting? What time will it be? I'm curious as
> > to why you didn't just speak the principal directly. After all, it was
> > Lisa who said that the principal had responsibility for her children
> > instead of herself and the YMCA.
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > ----------
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: tom lynch [mailto:tom.lynch@somedomain]
> > > Sent: Thursday, August 12, 2004 7:38 PM
> > > To: Kacie Nesby
> > > Subject: RE: D*-Uriel Alexander Lynch at Furn Bluff Elementary
> > >
> > >
> > > Kacie,
> > >
> > > I appreciate your promising to have the councilors apologize to my
son,
> > > as what transpired was in front of him. However, this weekend
> > > D* told me that the camp councilors had not apologized, and he
> > > still has the impression that they want to supervise me. The
councilor
> > > that had not provided his name to me (also in front of my son) also
did
> > > not explain that he was mistaken.
> > >
> > > I sense my son is upset with your councilors over this matter, which
is
> > > why I am motivated to ask, when will the apology occur, and can I be
> > > there to witness it?
> > >
> > > Also, you mentioned that you were going to have a councilor explain to
> > > the principal that you all were not happy about her coming into the
> > > gym. When did this occur? Which counselor talked to the principal
and
> > > what was said? What was her reply?
> > >
> > > Also, what _was_ the name of the counselor who had no YMCA ID and who
> > > refused to identify himself to me? I believe his first name was
> > > Dustin.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Sincerely Yours,
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Tom Lynch
> > >
> > >
> >
>
Received on Mon Aug 16 10:11:02 2004